Feeling confident can seem impossible sometimes, but here’s the truth: confidence is a skill, not a trait. You can grow it, strengthen it, and keep it with practice. Here’s how.

1. Start Small

Big confidence comes from tiny wins. Speak up in a meeting, try a new hobby, or start a conversation with someone new. Little steps = big results.

2. Question Your Inner Critic

That voice saying “You can’t do this”? Challenge it. Replace “I’ll fail” with “…but I’ll learn something valuable regardless.” Changing your self-talk changes your mindset.

3. Own Your Body Language

Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak clearly. Your body sends signals to your brain and others that you can handle this. Quick trick: 2 minutes of “power poses” before a stressful moment works surprisingly well.

4. Learn, Don’t Aim for Perfect

Confidence isn’t never failing, it’s trusting yourself to handle challenges. Keep a journal of progress and lessons learned. Growth becomes visible, and so does confidence.

5. Surround Yourself With Positivity

Confidence grows in the right environment. Spend time with supportive people and limit exposure to negativity. Your vibe really does attract your tribe.

6. Be Kind to Yourself

Confidence is not the same as arrogance. Treat yourself like a friend: supportive, encouraging, and patient. Simple check-ins (“Am I being too hard on myself?”) help a lot.

Bonus: Join a Guided Challenge

If you want a step-by-step approach, Aliya Rajah’s Confidence Challenge is perfect. It covers public speaking, setting boundaries, taking opportunities, and overcoming self-doubt, turning practical tips into real-life confidence.

Confidence isn’t pretending to be fearless—it’s showing up, trusting yourself, and practicing courage. Start small, challenge negative thoughts, and take action.