What does it mean to be enlightened? To some, it is a state of divine knowledge − an absolute and total understanding of the universe and all of its different realms, facets, and dimensions. To others, it is a state of being closer in their connection to their god. Some − such as Immanuel Kant, a notable figure in modern philosophy − define it as an individual’s emergence from their self-imposed inability to understand things (things including themselves, others, the world around them, and whatever may be beyond) without further guidance from another. 

When we think about relationships, it can often be more outward looking. It’s rare for us to first look within. But there’s great value in the age-old musings of “If you don’t love yourself first, how do you expect someone else to love you?”